You're single? What's wrong with you?

 In all these years I talked a lot with my friends and often came up the topic of relationships at our age, that is in your early 20's.
You have to know that I've just turned 24 and I never had a boyfriend in my life. I literally don't know what it means have a person that cares about you in a certain way, which is a lot different from friendship.

All my closest friends are in a relationship and my new friends at the university are beginning a new relationship or they are in a relationship for years and then there's me!
When someone ask me "Do you have a boyfriend?" the classic answers is "No, I don't" of course, hoping that maybe I could be more desiderable/suitable to single boys instead of my occupied friends. And of course it's not!

When I reach a deeper level of closeness with some friends and they find out that I never had a boyfriend their reactions are: "Oh my God! What is wrong with you?", "For real?", "ahahah you're joking, right?", "Maybe you're lesbian" , "You're lying, this could not be possible.. you're 24!". Well, thanks friends!

 Well, you know what? I'm not lesbian and there's nothing wrong with me, or at least I hope; it's just that no one applied for the role of my boyfriend! NO ONE! Is it my fault? Maybe.
You don't know how many times, when I was invited to dinner to my group of friends' house with their boyfriends/girlfriends, I wanted to bring someone with me. I was always the single one, 9 persons, 4 couples. At the end I stopped partecipating to these dinners, because the "couples" always talked about couple's stuff, couple's holidays, double dates... I had enough honestly! I felt like Bridget Jones! But of course it's not their fault.. we're talking about people that never stayed alone, they always had a boyfriend/girlfriend and they don't know how to be alone.

 

One day, one of my friend asked me: "When we are with other people and we talk about relationships, don't you feel uncomfortable? If I were you, I would! I mean, no offense but you know nothing about that!" Well, thanks again friend!

My cousin today told me how much she missed her boyfriend and she told me that I should find a boyfriend soon because I'm getting older (she's 20!).

Have I the worst friends in the world or there's actually something wrong with me?
I mean, I always have been the not-so-pretty-but-funny friend, the one that trusts no one.. yes, I have trust issues, ok, and I'm also picky! All the boys that I fancied in my life, literally played with my heart since I was 14. So, is just me or it was the first boy that broke my heart's fault?

Through my teenage phase I had my self-esteem and confidence under my feet, because I had to admit, pimples, crooked teeth and then braces were not so appealing near my perfect friends.

But you know what? I worked on me to be stronger than these words.
For me right now, be single is becoming an identity. I wouldn't change my independece and my habits for a man that maybe doesn't love me either.
As Lady Gaga said: "Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore.", so why should I settle for the first random guy??? I deserve one of the greatest love of all time, not a dickhead!
Also my mom always told me "Carol, think about your education and not boys!", maybe that's why I'm getting my second degree at the university and no boyfriend, but you know what, a fucking non-sense relationship is not definying me as a person.
There you are friends!

Or I'll will end up like Bridget Jones (before Darcy) and everyone else was right!

 Talk to you soon



Carol

The images are not mine

What Makes a Man Attractive?

What are you looking at in a man?
I mean, aesthetically, what you looking for in a boy? I know it's a little bit superficial because a girl should go over a good-looking face and look for other qualities in life, BUT let's be superificial for a moment!
When I asked to my female friends, most of them aswered me saying "Butt! We look at their butt at first!" and I was like "really????". I've never looked at a man's bum as a first thing.. I mean, for me it's not essential.
Personally I'm obsessed with hands and teeth..
I know I seem to be a total psycho, but for me these are almost essential. I don't know why I focus on these two stupid things, but I do.



For me a me a man needs to have really neat hands (even if I don't have such neat hands like I would like to have), it could be a bonus if he has big and fine hands. Maybe I'm obsessed with them because the touch of  nice hands can be really appreciated!

Take Harry Styles' hands, for examples, to me they are perfect. Big, tapered and well-groomed.
Usally I like rings on men, but it depends from their styles and fingers. 

 Let's pass to the teeth.. which are really important to me.
A man can be really attractive just with a great smile. Sometimes they don't need anything else, just that.
And again.. Harry Styles has a great smile! It's almost contagious! But, the basis for a great smile are the teeth! I don't like men with messy teeth. If you have problems with your teeth, for me, you're out! And believe me, I had the worst teeth in the world when I was a teenager but I fixed them and I know how much a good smile can be worth.

 There's another couple of things that can make me appreciate a man: a deep gaze and how he dressed.

Look at Ed Westwick's gaze.. I literally would die with a gaze like that.
*Are you looking at me? really? oh my God, I'm dying. Bye.*


I really like a man in a suits. In my opinion a well-dressed man is the essence of elegance and manliness.

 

 A well-dressed man literally drives me crazy!
 I love the classic must-have in  a suit but sometimes I also like a little bit of eccentricity. Sometimes a little particular can give to the outfit a slightly improvement.



An accessory that I found really interesting (but the most of them never wore) is the watch. To me a nice watch in a man's wardrobe is fundamental.

I think all women will like that kind of view!

 

 Who in the world would ever refuse men like these? I hope no one would!

Also the designer and director Tom Ford make a list of the things that every man should have. (I think I might agree with him!)

 But sincerelly I think that the most attractive features in a man will always be the self-confidence (without cockiness please!), kindness, manners and charm.  If you have these qualities you will always win in front of a woman.







Talk to you soon



Carol